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We got married in 1996 after seven months of dating. I don’t recommend dating three months, getting engaged and married within eight months, but this is how we did it. The upside: I got to marry Marilyn. The downside: Marilyn got to know me after we got married. She said, “You were great at dating and are horrible at being married” and prayed, “Lord, am I sentenced to a life of this?” After a year of conflict and tears, God intervened in both of our lives.

“You were great at dating and are horrible at being married.”

Once we got married, I turned my attention from Marilyn to building a career and seeing as many sporting events as possible. My former business and my sports appetite grew, but our marriage didn’t. Then, the turnaround.

Brad, Marilyn and their 5 kids.

Marilyn learned the sufficiency of Christ, I was convicted of selfishness, and God performed a miracle in our marriage. Fast forward ten years and, seeing how much fun we were having, a couple asked us to do their premarital counseling. Then, more couples called, we started groups, a waiting list developed and the progression to full-time marriage work started.

During this period my former business grew greatly with the help of a quarterly business coaching program. Every three months we would leave our business and take a big picture look at it. The program asked us the big picture questions and we were asked to make big picture decisions.

To make a long story short – this proactive approach transformed everything in our business. Our practices, client experience, marketing and staff decisions improved. As a result, our business grew quickly. Then, I thought: There is no more dominated institution in our culture than the family. Couples don’t just stop, think big picture and proactively work to achieve big picture goals. What if we put together an ongoing and effective discipleship process to help couples break through the complexities to richly enjoy one another?

With my pastoral experience and Marilyn’s counseling background, we started building a curriculum. We assembled a test group with a couple in church leadership, a local doctor and his wife, and a cross section of married couples socially, economically and stage of marriage. The impact on their marriages was evident and everyone wanted to continue in this quarterly rhythm. Then, we did a brief promotion at our church, hoping to start a few more groups. The response was amazing!

As other churches started expressing interest in using the same strategy, we began to sense a calling to help bring marriages alive in our culture. We left our previous careers behind to devote full-time effort to help individuals and churches bring their marriages alive!

Today, we’re privileged to serve churches in 20 different states and a number of different countries. We’d be honored to serve alongside you also!