Shingles, chiropractors, and brown recluse spiders. It wasn’t too long ago that these three things were the topic of our everyday conversation at my house. As I look back in reflection, life was extra busy during that time.
Do you feel busy and overwhelmed when you look at your calendar? With work, family, and life in general, it can be tough to juggle all that comes at you. If you wait until life slows down a bit before taking the time to invest in your marriage, you won’t. Here’s a quick reminder about the importance of keeping your married dates, especially when you’re busy.
Keep your married dates especially when you’re busy
Take a snapshot of our recent family life as an example. My back was out. I needed to see a chiropractor regularly. Marilyn was recovering from shingles and had ongoing, intense nerve pain. We had brown recluse spiders in our house. Talk about a problem that can’t wait. I hate spiders.
Oh, and our fall schedule during that same time period promised even more craziness. We had college visits for our senior in high school at the time, six regional Grace Marriage training sessions, and four different cross-country schedules to manage (grade school, middle school, high school, and college!). I think I mentioned everything!
With all of that going on, Marilyn and I were still committed to dating once a week and talking every night before we went to bed. We believe that time waits for no man… and no marriage. In fact, when you notice you’re extra busy, that’s not time to cancel your married date nights. That’s time to notice you need that night out more than ever. Take the time to re-center to what’s most important in your life.
You cannot put marriage on hold—ever! Taking time to ensure the center of your home stays healthy and strong will be your best guard against things falling apart when chaos happens.
Grace Marriage Mission
If you haven’t already, commit with your spouse to dating each other at least once a week. Make room for your marriage–even and especially during the crazy times!
If the week is particularly chaotic, brainstorm some ideas on how you’re going to keep time alone together a priority. Maybe it’s an early morning coffee date; maybe it’s late-night talk time while you exchange foot massages.
You will never regret prioritizing this most important relationship!
Reflect on these Scripture:
Matthew 6:21 > For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Matthew 6:34 > Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Brad Rhoads is co-founder of Grace Marriage.